The Benefits Of Self-Love

The Benefits of Self-love

Aside from just making you feel good, self-love can benefit your life in many ways, too:

  • Greater Life Satisfaction. Greater life satisfaction is associated with people who practice self-love. Appreciating yourself helps you appreciate your life. When you hold yourself in high esteem and know you are fulfilling your purpose in life, you tend to have more enjoyment and a more positive attitude toward the future.
  • Motivation for Healthy Habits. Self-love can motivate you to adopt healthy habits and take care of your physical self. It doesn’t mean you don’t see room for improvement, it just means you care enough to value all of the parts of you. You express your love for yourself by doing things that make you look and feel your best.
  • Better Mental Health. Mental health issues are more likely to resolve quickly — or less likely to develop altogether— for people who love themselves. Self-love can keep you from getting lost in your own head and going down a path toward negative thoughts and feelings. People who find themselves struggling with addiction or other mental health issues often need to develop a stronger positive relationship with themselves, and find that self-love can help lead them out of their disorders.
  • Reduction in Stress and Increase in Performance. Self-love reduces stress, lessens procrastination and reduces performance anxiety around deadlines. Without those last minute doubts about yourself, you can complete projects with all of your energy, rather than wasting some on procrastination and setting yourself up for failure.
  • Better Able to Deal With Adversity. People who practice self-love rebound from adversity faster than those who wallow in self-loathing. You can’t control what life throws at you, but you can manage your own response. People who feel good about themselves handle life crises better and move on to the good times faster.

Loving yourself can create a joy you bring with you wherever you go.

How to Love Yourself More

Recognizing the value of self-love is the first step to improving your quality of life. Adding more self-love to your life is the next thing you need to accomplish. Here are some tips to help you:

  • Define Your Own Beauty. Don’t wait until you lose weight or get the perfect hairstyle to love yourself. You can love yourself now by changing your focus on what’s important. Start with one small feature and decide to love that part of you first. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it’s uniquely you. You may decide to love your feet because they have carried you through life in heels and sneakers. They take a lot of abuse, but they continue to hold you up. Or, you might love your eyes because they have that unique coloration and sparkle you identify with.
  • Change Your Self-Talk. The little voice inside your head that can drag you down when you make a mistake must be changed. You probably wouldn’t talk that way to someone you love, so why say it to yourself? Replace that negative self-talk with something positive and up-lifting. When you make a mistake, try an encouraging phrase like, “It’s ok! I’ll just try again.”
  • Pamper Yourself. When your feet get wet in the rain, go home and put on dry socks. Be more aware of your physical condition and do things to comfort yourself. Wait for the water to get warm before washing your hands. When you’re tired after a long day at work, sit down and take a break before making dinner or doing other chores rather than just pushing through. These are small ways you let yourself know that your comfort and well-being are important.

You can learn to love yourself and reap the benefits in your life. Making a conscious effort to improve your relationship with yourself can have many rewards.

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Common Ground

If we all began every conversation, request and negotiation by first asking ourselves, “what is our common ground?”  We would save much time, frustration and suffering and quite possibly come to a solution reflective of the reality that solutions created together serve us better in whole then grappling to fulfill just our own individual need.

As I sat listening to John Smith speak of his private meetings within a group called “Go Big” I was struck with the power of seeking “Common Ground”.   Minor differences disappear when the principle of “common ground” is allowed to form the foundation from which discussion ensues.

So much time is wasted on proving our point of view. We are not really listening to the other side just sitting waiting for a pause so we can inject our myriad list of reasons why what we say is the best and only way.  Our heels planted firmly digging deeper and deeper into our reasons and causes fostering an inability to see anything new.   We enlist soldiers who share our thinking and cement ourselves into an immovable obstruction all the while had we first asked, “what is our common ground?” we could have remained soft, pliable and able to adjust ultimately creating a solution.  Never is one opinion enough to create greatness it has to be molded with the insight and experience of others.  We can create so much more when working together with the footing of “common ground” and the dedication to solving problems.  

So much blood has shed to prove a point.  Our attempts to be right and make some one else wrong limit our ability to create something fresh something new.  In every passionate corner of our world; religion, political view, personal power, sports, sex and money we will kill or die trying to enforce our will on someone else.  It is amazing that one simple thing all religions share is the belief; “Thou shall not kill” and even on that the one simplest parcel of ground we all share we cannot stand together on “Common Ground”.   

If finally…just life itself becomes the most cherished possession all things change. 

 Mothers’ experience this… recovery from sickness to health discovers this… common yet quickly forgotten overwhelming sense of pure gratitude for just being alive. 

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